Wednesday, February 03, 2010
How in the world?
Parents out there I need help! My little girl has started to not sleep unless we are touching her (holding her or rubbing her back). I've tried letting her cry to sleep. I've even let her cry for like thirty minutes and then I go in say "shhh" and rub her back and she'll be gone. How do you teach a baby to self soothe? To calm herself down when she's tired? I never put her down crying, I put her down after I notice her yawning and I do spend some time with her rocking her and singing. But then three minutes after I've put her down she starts crying and wont fall asleep til I'm back in there. She's three months now and the books are making me feel bad that she hasn't already mastered this and I have been trying, I really have.
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I went through the same thing with Jack. I did let him cry it out, it took 11 days of him crying himself to sleep, each time he would cry for about 45 minutes. You feel like you are going to die, but it works. At least, it did for us. We are also binkie people.
It made be hard on you, but just do what you feel is right for you and your little one.
Good luck!
Hmmm, I was thinking the binky thing, too...although Kathryn was never into those, she used her thumb instead. Are you feeding her close to bedtime? Maybe she has a gas bubble? Try some gas drops before bed and see if that helps. What about blankets...was she a swaddler? Do you think she may want to be swaddled to feel more secure? Hope it gets better soon...just wait until the molars start coming in ;) Hang in there!
Gracie is almost six months, and she still has a hard time calming herself. I remember Kenzie doing "cry it out" for a week and Gracie would cry for an hour before she went to sleep, but it worked. She got to the point where she put herself to sleep with minimal crying or no crying. The only reason she's having a hard time now, is cause she's been sick. It's rough hearing them cry for so long, but it's the only way sometimes.
I wish I had a binky baby. She hates them, well certaintly doesn't keep them in her mouth very long. DO you let them cry it out for naps too? Or just bedtime? Because by the time bedtime rolls around she usually falls asleep midbottle and we sit her up on our shoulder and she burps and will go straight to bed.
I've heard the book "On Becoming Baby Wise: The classic sleep reference guide" is a good one, but I haven't read it yet. By Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam
I found that Zachary cried more when he was over tired. I had to catch him at just the right time for naps and bedtime to prevent extra tears. What I watched for was early signs of sleepy like zoning, becoming more slow and less active at play. I also have a routine for nap times. I do the eat, play, sleep routine with the end of play including changing his bum and reading a couple of books. He now goes down much better for naps. I feel like I read every book out there and I took pieces from them all to get what worked for us. My pediatrician and lactation consultant did not recommend Baby Wise, but I like bits of it. I also liked Happiest Baby on the Block and the Lullabye Sleep and nap solution (2 separate books). Good luck it can be very frustrating!
Well, I don't have any baby advice. BUT all i can say is your doing a great job!! And i know you will figure it out! Your amazing!
I am sorry Jo was the same way. We finally had to let her cry it out. It was the longest days of my life. Jim had to restraingme from going to check on her. It got shorter and shorter by the day but that first day and 55 mins later she was out. I felt like a bad mom but knew I was doing good for her.
NOw cry it out doesn't help everyone and not all agree. It worked for me as did the book "Healthy sleeping habits, Happy Child" We STILL use this book, GOOD LUCK
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